As promised, here’s the Affidavit that we have submitted to the immigration as one of the requirements for De Facto relationship.
I, CELESTE ABRIA LUNA, wrote and published this in my website in October 2009 (edited some texts and put some translations). Rodel and I met in a quite unique, funny and unexpected way. In my website, you will see comments and statements from our friends and relatives. http://czhellemoone.com/2009/10/18/our-journey/
Who would’ve ever thought we’re gonna meet online?!?! We went to the same university, we both took up BS Accountancy, we have common friends and yet we haven’t met during those times. Yeah, right… no kidding! I met him in Friendster and it was a “WOW Mali” [“BLOOPERS”] to begin with. Two years ago, I got a message from a Friendster user ” iled”. He introduced himself as Rodel. He doesn’t have any picture in his profile. I just assumed he was a former classmate from PUP. Oh! by the way, he also mentioned the university…one of the reasons why I thought he’s the Rodel that I knew way back then, only to find out he was somebody else. And to top it all, I already gave him my contact number and YM ID! We even started chatting before I found out that I was talking to someone I didn’t really know. Then he began calling and texting me (he’s in Singapore, by the way). He told me he knew me then, that he’s got a crush on me when we were in college…blah…blah…blah! It’s flattering but I opt not to believe in all these things that he’s been telling me. After almost a year of constant communication, almost everyday of exchanging serious, funny, some non-sense and even out of this world conversations, still there were no pictures (gosh, ano kayang itsura nya?!? [gosh, how does he look like?!?!] lol), finally came October 5, 2008 — marked the beginning of “my journey”with him.
Again, who would’ve ever thought that the “Big B” would hit me big time just 3 days after our 1st monthsary? Seems like hard to believe, right?!?! Yeah, sure…I almost could not believe it as well. But it happened, it did…It’s true that only the one whom you love the most has the capability of hurting you the most. After 8 long years of not letting myself fall for someone because I was too scared of getting hurt, I finally took the chance of falling inlove again. But it seems like no matter how hard I tried, there’s no way that I could protect myself from being deeply hurt. I can’t help but ask myself, “what have I done to deserve this?” It’s so unfair…I just can’t put into words how hard and painful it was. There were probably no words that could ever explain how I feel that time. But what’s done is done…we can never turn back time for the “what we should have done or shouldn’t have done”. I’ve only got two options…
An Ending that Leads to a New Beginning
December 11, 2008 (Changi International Airport, Singapore) – Our first meeting. Yes, you read it right! It’s not a typo. We’ve waited for this very moment to arrive, we were so eager and excited to finally see each other. It took us 4 months to finalize our Singapore-Malaysia tour. It would be our first planned trip together. But it turned out to be the first meeting that two people who love each other would never want to be like. I deserve to hear an explanation for what he has done and he has a lot of explaining to do. He did it pretty well, I guess…but my brain couldn’t just accept his reasoning. I didn’t hate him (though that’s what I am supposed to feel towards him). But still, our planned trip did not push through. I left for Malaysia without him and stayed there for 3 days, then back to Singapore. We met again, we met up with some friends, we went shopping and we talked the whole night at the hotel’s lobby. It could have been fun and exciting being with him and spending time with him had it not because of what happened. But life has to go on…so, the morning before my flight back to Manila I finally said “thank you…and goodbye…”
Love Does Not Keep Records of Wrong
It’s time to move on. I just have to be thankful for those times that he made me feel special and loved for those times that he made me smile, for giving me the courage to love again. But he’s been so persistent, he keeps on explaining things over and over again, asking for another chance. Sigh…call me a martyr, I won’t complain. But I am not a hypocrite. I can lie to anyone, but not to myself…not to God. I still love him. I never thought I would love him this much, but I do. Yes, it’s easier to forgive than to forget. I gave him another chance, but it’s really a struggle forgetting what happened. No one would ever want to be in my place…no one would ever dare. It’s hard to bring back the trust that was lost. Distance made it harder for me…for us. But if things seem to go beyond your control, you just have to let go. You just have to let God run the race for you. Nothing’s ever powerful than a prayer coming from the heart.
Meet the Parents
I didn’t know he’s coming! Monday – Three days after my birthday, he woke me up with a phone call early in the morning telling me not to open my windows messenger. Out of curiosity, I asked him why? Well, he told me that the technician will be there and he might get caught. Then, his brother sent me an SMS which goes like “ate dumating na po padala ni Rodel, pwede po ba tayo magkita bukas?” [“sister, the package from Rodel just arrived, can we meet tomorrow?”] The following day, I received another text message from his brother asking me if we could meet up the next day instead, because he’s still in the office. I’m beginning to doubt that it’s not his brother who’s texting me. And so, come Wednesday I received another text messages. Finally, we met at Mall of Asia. Wanna know why he didn’t tell me it was him?!?! Because that time, we were not OK! And if he did tell me it was him, I won’t meet up with him. toink!!! We had dinner at President’s Tea House (seaside) MOA, then Starbucks Market Market on our way to my place. Since it’s already late, he slept over to our place (thanks to my sister’s offer! hahaha!) He occupied the other room, my sister (from Dubai who’s also having a vacation) and I in my room. June 11, 2009 – it’s my sister’s birthday and since she’s gonna celebrate it with her friends Rodel & I went out to see a movie. We watched Terminator (The Salvation), I almost fell asleep in the movie house (Sta. Lucia). Again, it was already late so I stayed at their place. I met his parents and his younger brother. I was a bit uneasy…but I managed to be calm! phew!!! Question and answer portion? Of course there was! Hehehe…I should know, my dad is like that too. The next day I met his ate, older brother and rest of the family. They were all nice to me, I should say. They made me feel like I’m part of the family. June 19, 2009 – now, it’s his turn to meet my parents. He cooked for me (by request), lunch! No, we’re not Chinese (am not being discriminating here, if you know what I meant) hahaha! My parents love him! (anong ginawa nya?!?!) [“what did he do?!?!”] Spending a week with him was the best birthday gift. c”,)
Oh, I should’ve written “Meet the Parents” (and the rest of the family) toink! wehehehe…
I’m Sorry, I didn’t Know…
Phew! This happened few days before our 1st Anniversary. Ironic, isn’t it?!?! I won’t go into details but I guess what’s written below says it all.
Just the mere thought that he’s still trapped in the past, struggling to move on, to let go, to forget and to forgive hurts me more than I ever thought. I didn’t know it was her…because if I did, I would have think twice before communicating with her or at least ask him if it’s OK. It just happened by chance…probably because it has to happen. And I’m sure, it happened for a reason…
“Hatred and insecurities infect the mind but love dissolves them. Hope that my love for you is strong enough to dissolve them…or at least lessen the burden that they are causing you…even if it means getting hurt twice as much as you do…”
I want him to be happy and find his real purpose in life. No matter how tough life could be, I will always be around and he’ll always be in my prayers.
Letting God & Letting the Years Count
October 5, 2oo9 – Happy 1st Anniversary!!! What else can I say? Despite all the things that happened, we’ve come this far. Thank you for loving me and for not letting go of me when I feel like giving up on us. Always letting God be at the center of our relationship will surely give us a very strong foundation of love, trust, respect. Let’s just continue to pray for each other no matter what happens. And may the Lord keep watch between you and me when we are away from each other. We still have a long way to go. Our journey has just started and the rest is yet to be written…
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I must say that being physically and geographically away from each other is a real challenge in our relationship. Internet has become our major form of communication apart from calls and exchanges of SMS. He’s in Singapore so time zone has never been an issue but the job did. His job is quite demanding while mine is not as demanding as his. Because of that, he tried to convince me to take the CPA review classes and sit for the licensure exam. One way to do so is by offering to pay for my tuition fee with a promise of a vacation in Palawan if I pass the board exam. And so he won! In May 2010, I enrolled in a CPA review classes.
During those times that we were away, I regularly visit his parents in Antipolo. They always invite me to family gatherings and celebrations like birthdays, anniversaries, wedding, etc.
In July of the same year, I quit from my job to be full time in my review classes. From then on until I finally got a job here in Singapore, Rodel is the one who’s supporting me. Though I have my own personal savings, it was not enough to sustain me for a year of being unemployed.
When my friends and I went for Singapore-Bangkok-Malaysia tour, which was also in the same month, I introduced him to them. He brought us to Sentosa, Universal Studios and some other places here in Singapore. It was a whole lot of fun. My friends definitely enjoyed his company and humor.
In August 2010, he had his annual vacation. Another opportunity to spend time together even just for a couple of weeks. We did the usual stuff that couples do such as watching movies, dining out and all those sort of activities. I spent the two weeks with him and his family in Antipolo. His sister and nieces from Japan also flew back to the Philippines for a holiday so I got the opportunity to meet them as well. They are all very nice to me.
In May 2011, I took the CPA Licensure Exam and passed. In July, a week after my oath taking, I flew to Singapore. I must say I am blessed, because I landed a job in less than two months time. Since then, we started living together.
In February 2012, we decided to open a joint bank account in DBS and share our finances. We transfer money from our personal savings accounts (where our salary is credited) to our joint account, then, we use it to send money to our family back in the Philippines and other part of it to my Philippine bank account (BPI Savings). We never really had any agreement on who will pay for what, though we share the rent and PUB equally. We pay for our own phone bills (though his is under my name). He normally does the cooking (he’s a frustrated chef actually) and I love every single dish that he prepares and serves everytime. I do the housekeeping, budgeting and keeping of important documents. I am his personal secretary in the sense that if he needs to draft an email, fill out forms, etc. he will ask me to do it for him. I can say that living together has strengthened our relationship as a couple. We got to know each other more deeply. It has taught me a lot to be more patient and understanding, to complement him, to love him even more and to accept not just his strength but also his weaknesses.
February 2013, he finally finished paying the amortization of the house and lot that he bought in the Philippines 5 years back. As a celebration and thanksgiving, we planned for a family tour (his family and mine together). All expenses paid by both of us equally. That Singapore-Malaysia Family Tour happened in June and it was so memorable to us. In July, I’ve finally convinced him to get personal life and accident insurance which we pay through my personal bank account in POSB. A couple of months back, after our 5th anniversary, we decided to take our relationship to the next level. As such, we filed for a marriage license at the Philippine embassy on 5th December, for the solemnization of marriage which will happen on 10th January 2014. We are planning to have our church wedding on the same day in 2015, a year after.
With the help and support of our family and friends, we are looking forward to migrating in Australia and build our family there. Given the chance to live and work there will give us better opportunity to help our family and relatives back in the Philippines. Through God’s grace and His perfect will and timing, both Rodel and I know that our dream to migrate in Australia will be a reality.
(Sgd) CELESTE A. LUNA
I, RODEL H. AREVALO, attest to the above statement by my fiancée, Celeste. I was with her while she’s writing this statement and helped her to recall those significant events in our lives & relationship for the past 5 years. While I am a man who is not so good in putting words into writing, and she’s the one who is good at it, I confidently let her write the official statement for our continuing and genuine relationship and that we will be jointly and severally accountable for every word that is written here.
In addition to the above statement (from her blog), YES, it’s an absolute truth that I got a crush on her when we were in college but I have no guts to pursue her because I don’t have money to take her out for a movie, lunch or dinner. I don’t even have enough to buy my own food. I survived with a cup of rice and soup during lunch time for 4 years until I finished my Bachelor’s degree. When I saw her in Friendster, I was already working here in Singapore, so I inquired to one of our common friends named Edith if Celeste is still single. And the rest is history. Now that we both have a good job and an opportunity to migrate to Australia, I am confident that I can give her and our future kids with a good life and more security. I am optimistic that our dreams will come true.
(Sgd) RODEL H. AREVALO